October 2nd marks this blog’s second anniversary. When I began it, I thought that if 50 people
other than me read it in the first year, I’d keep writing. The first year actually had about 8,000
visitors from dozens of countries.
Heading into the 2nd anniversary, it’s had about 20,000
visits from over 70 countries. Thanks
for the interest! I will continue
writing as long as I feel called.
I began the blog because I was bullied out of teaching faith
formation at my local parish though I still felt called to teach. My kids reminded me that in today’s world,
there are more ways to teach the faith than within the four walls of a
parish-owned building. They told me, “Write
a blog or something! Try teaching in snack-sized bites.”
Inspired by my kids’ ideas and not liking to feel
victimized, I expanded my horizons. Within
a few days I had written and published my first blog article. I’m still working on the “snack-sized” thing. Regardless, now instead of reaching a few
dozen people in my small Midwestern U.S. parish, I touch thousands of people
around the world. I thank my kids for
their advice and support. I also thank the
bullies who tried stifling the Spirit but instead just further enkindled and
spread it.
I think I easily could have wrapped myself in victimhood,
sported bitterness and blamed “the church” while wallowing in unhappiness. I could have stomped off in a huff from the
church, righteously licking my wounds.
Instead I found freedom in broadening my horizons while remaining in my
faith community. More importantly I
experienced a great deal of spiritual growth and found a new way to serve
God. I learned to speak openly and
fearlessly about church bullying and other injustices. In general, I’ve just tried to cooperate with
the Spirit to bring about changes that it directs. That brings a lot more inner peace than victimhood.
My non-snack-sized personal anecdote brings me to this
article’s topic: victimhood.
Victimhood seems to be a popular topic these days. For example, the U.S. presidential candidate, Mitt
Romney, recently said he believed 47% of Americans enjoy victimhood. Along with several of his supporters, he
believes that many people, after being convinced by professional victim-helpers
of their victimhood, plain and simply like to be victims.
So what is victimhood and how does it tie to Christian
faith?
According to Dr. Ofer Zur, people who
live in a state of victimhood are people who believe they bounce through life
blown by forces beyond their control and subsequently attribute their behavior
to these external forces. People who
enjoy victimhood tend to feel low self-esteem, shame, guilt, helplessness,
hopelessness and an internal sense of “badness”. He observed that such people prefer retaining
the perceived “benefits” of their victimhood over the price of ending it. He mentioned these perceived benefits
include gaining people’s sympathy or pity, avoiding responsibility or
accountability, possessing a sense of righteousness, and sometimes even feeling
relief if their “badness” is punished.
He also states that victims and abusers have a complementary
relationship, meaning they can’t exist without each other.
Similarly, Daryl Conner wrote a two
article series about victimhood as it pertains to organizational
change. He contrasted people who feel
victimized by organizational change to those who participate in influencing the
change. A summary of those contrasts are contained in
the following table but I encourage you to read his original articles:
Victims
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Influencers
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Think they are acted upon by external forces
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Think they are one of the forces in situations
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Think they are helpless due to circumstances
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Think they can have an impact on the change
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Often:
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Often
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These articles caused me to think of the church, both
ordained and lay members.
The church is founded upon faith in Jesus Christ, whom the
apostles took to calling a victim. Jesus
told his followers to emulate him. So
the apostles direct the faithful to imitate the victimhood they declared for
Jesus. But, did Jesus think he was a
victim? And did he call his followers to
be victims too?
Scripture never indicates Jesus felt he was a victim. Indeed it clearly expresses that Jesus could have
refused to do God’s bidding but didn’t.
That sounds like a personal choice and a willingness to accept
consequences.
Jesus openly admitted he didn’t like something (asking to
let the cup pass if it could), but he had a determination to be a part of the
necessary change for the world. He
expanded his horizons and encouraged his apostles to do likewise. He took action to make progress for
humanity. That seems to match what
Conner describes as an influencer rather than a victim of change.
So why do apostles like to portray Jesus as a victim? Why do they encourage people to imitate Jesus
in that victimhood?
Other than hopelessness, the psychological elements Zur
mentions that result from a victimhood mentality seem to be personality traits the
clergy encourage amongst the faithful: shame, guilt, low self-esteem,
helplessness and an internal sense of “badness”. It would seem that the clergy say, “Here is
Jesus, a victim. To imitate him, you
must imitate his death by becoming victims too.
Be docile and accepting of the status quo. Do not challenge us.” Is this a case of abusers in search of
victims?
However, if one sees Jesus as influential in changing the
world rather than a victim of it, then it would seem the focus shifts to Jesus’
Resurrection. Imitating him shifts from
imitating his death to imitating his life, where he challenged religious
authorities and social norms, where he walked with the marginalized, where he
helped others move beyond their victimhood, and where he was influential in
changing the world.
Fifty years ago this October the Second Vatican Council
opened and that was one time in which church hierarchy members seemed to act
like influencers of change en masse rather than as victims. But as I reflect upon the apostles’ historic
and especially their recent en masse reactions to change, the list of victim
characteristics seems to better parallel their behaviors. Since the apostles feel they best emulate
Jesus, do they feel they are victims too?
What’s the risk to move beyond a victimhood mentality for
the clergy and laity? What is the price
for change and do you think it’s higher than the benefits of moving beyond
religious victimhood? Should we embrace victimhood? What is the impact
of organized religions on a victimhood mentality in society?